My so-called (gay) life

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This is the world we are living in…


This is the world we are living in…

Owner of camp accused of starving, torturing, killing gay teens defends himself


The man behind a South African ‘gay cure’ camp has insisted he is not the reason behind the death of a 15-year-old boy.

A picture of Raymond Buys, 15, taken in April 2011 showed a skeletal, emaciated figure fighting for his life.

Just 10 weeks before, the teen’s parents signed him up to the Echo Wild Game Rangers training course in South Africa in perfect health.

In hospital, Buys was severely malnourished, dehydrated, his arm was broken in two places and there were burns and wounds all over his body. He lay in intensive care for four weeks until he died.

Echo Wild Game Rangers camp owner Alex de Koker and employee Michael Erasmus are facing charges of murder, child abuse, neglect and assault with intent to cause serious injury.

The camp, in which two other boys had previously died, promised parents to ‘turn boys into men’. The trial has now gone on for three years.

According to SAPA, De Koka told the Vereeniging Regional Court all of Buys’ injuries were self-inflicted or caused by fights with another boy at the camp.

He claimed he changed the teen to a bed because he ‘heard a rumor that he wanted to commit suicide.’

He says he was concerned about Buys’ well-being and ‘recorded conversations’ with him. According to De Koker’s own son, however, these were staged by the camp owner to cover up the abuse.

De Koker has denied the murder charge, calling it a ‘blatant lie’.

‘Yes, I was negligent. There are a lot of things I neglected to do,’ he said.

In testimony heard last year by one of Buys’ camp mates, they said Buys was chained to his bed every night, was refused permission to visit the toilet and on one occasion was forced to eat his own faeces.

He also said he would be beaten with planks, hosepipes and sticks when he failed to carry out manual labor tasks.

The 19-year-old alleged further he saw De Koker tied Buys to a chair naked with his head covered in a pillowcase, and would electrocute him with a stun gun.

Eric Calitz, 18, and Nicolaas Van Der Walt, 19, had both died after being enrolled at the Echo Wild Game Rangers camp four years earlier.
When Calitz requested to leave, De Koker reportedly told him he ‘wasn’t a moffie [gay] and he would make a man out of him’.

Calitz’s family was informed of his death via text message, saying he had died of a heart attack.

Afterwards, doctors said the cause of death was from a seizure, dehydration and found bleeding from the brain.

Van Der Walt was also claimed to have died from a heart attack, but doctors said he had appeared to have been choked with a seatbelt.

In 2009, De Koker was handed a suspended sentence over Calitz but escaped charges for the death of Van Der Walt, and the camp was allowed to continue.

Both De Koker and Erasmus have pleaded not guilty to the charges. The case continues.

The first person that I had a conversation [with] about [trans issues] was a psychologist in New York after college. So I was in my 20s, and of course the first psychologist that I talked to knew less about what it meant to be trans than I did. So, in fact, he not only gave me information that was not helpful — he gave me information that was wrong. In some ways [it] delayed my ability to address my troubles [for] years.

But once I became a Christian and was told that my sexuality was deviant and sinful, I felt ashamed about it. This may sound bizarre to some people—how I so quickly went from pride to shame—but when you’ve had a spiritual experience and seek to understand it by finding pastoral help, it’s easy to fall into the trap of seeing them as the experts, and believing their interpretation of certain Biblical passages without taking the larger picture into consideration. And without knowing that their interpretation is not the only interpretation.


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Everyone needs this


Yvette Schneider, formerly a leading spokesperson for the ‘ex-gay’ movement in America, has come out as bisexual and now supports bans on attempts to change children’s sexual orientations which she once spoke in favor of

Here's how I understand monosexism.


BTW: I don’t like using the term ‘monosexual privilege’ solely because I don’t think lesbians and gays experience privilege in the same way that straight folks do.

First of all, bisexuals have been using the term ‘monosexism’ since the 1990s, so let’s drop the “bi tumblr just hates lesbians”…

"Star Cross'd Jammers" is a lesbian roller derby romantic comedy

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Jamaica may open homeless shelter for LGBT people


Authorities in Jamaica are reportedly considering opening a homeless shelter specifically for LGBT people. However, it’s not necessarily for the kindhearted reasons we’d hope for. 

Jamaica is notoriously homophobic and dangerous for LGBT people, many of whom end up homeless and impoverished after being kicked out of their homes. An LGBT homeless shelter did exist in Jamaica a few years back, but it was closed down in 2012 because officials were “concerned about the action of homosexuals behaving badly and selling sexual services on the streets of Kingston.”

The people who had been staying there were forced to squat in abandoned homes and sewers, and residents nearby complained that they were committing crimes. In addition, some of the displaced homeless LGBT individuals reported they had faced break-ins, robbery, destruction of property and even murder as a result of their situation. Officials are considering a new shelter to solve both of these problems — although they want to be clear that this is not meant to be a statement in favor of LGBT rights. 

Jermaine Burton, founder of the group Colour Pink, reportedly said building a shelter would not address the root of the issue.

"The culture itself doesn’t create an enabling environment to really go and get a shelter as well. If you put up a shelter and people know that this is a shelter [for homosexuals]… it is more problems."

Officials were reportedly adamant that the homeless shelter would not be for gay rights, but for career development.

MP Julian Robinson said of the shelter: “It’s not a home for you to carry on your activities. So when you think of a shelter, don’t think of a shelter for persons to carry on homosexual activities. The shelter we’re looking at is a center where persons can get home training and skills training.”

So this is a lifesaving move potentially done for the wrong reasons. As long as these people can get to safety, I’ll take it for now. 

The Top 175 Essential Films of All Time for LGBT Viewers

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The imagery used in Cosmo’s slideshow is reminiscent of anime. With its cutesy motifs, the illustrations seem to be directed toward young, perhaps “bi-curious” girls and the boyfriends who are reading the magazine over their shoulder, rather than actual queer women. There is no problem with depicting a thin, lithe lesbian body type — not all lesbians are flannel-loving tomboys, and that’s just fine — but a certain lack of diversity in the bodies has elicited rumblings from some in the lesbian community. That said, when lesbians, regardless of their gender presentation, have been told that they don’t have “real” sex, portraying said sex in flat, 2-D cartoons is both infantilizing and, well, dumb.

Beyond the positions themselves, the accompanying names like like “the Belly Dancer” are superficial and troubling. I didn’t realize a sex position was defined by wearing a Hawaiian lei.

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