I love love
This is the world we are living in…
The first person that I had a conversation [with] about [trans issues] was a psychologist in New York after college. So I was in my 20s, and of course the first psychologist that I talked to knew less about what it meant to be trans than I did. So, in fact, he not only gave me information that was not helpful — he gave me information that was wrong. In some ways [it] delayed my ability to address my troubles [for] years.
But once I became a Christian and was told that my sexuality was deviant and sinful, I felt ashamed about it. This may sound bizarre to some people—how I so quickly went from pride to shame—but when you’ve had a spiritual experience and seek to understand it by finding pastoral help, it’s easy to fall into the trap of seeing them as the experts, and believing their interpretation of certain Biblical passages without taking the larger picture into consideration. And without knowing that their interpretation is not the only interpretation.
Everyone needs this
The imagery used in Cosmo’s slideshow is reminiscent of anime. With its cutesy motifs, the illustrations seem to be directed toward young, perhaps “bi-curious” girls and the boyfriends who are reading the magazine over their shoulder, rather than actual queer women. There is no problem with depicting a thin, lithe lesbian body type — not all lesbians are flannel-loving tomboys, and that’s just fine — but a certain lack of diversity in the bodies has elicited rumblings from some in the lesbian community. That said, when lesbians, regardless of their gender presentation, have been told that they don’t have “real” sex, portraying said sex in flat, 2-D cartoons is both infantilizing and, well, dumb.